So I was just wondering if this (admittedly rather poorly designed) circuit would work.
The "remote" would have three switches, the first switch would be directly attached to LED (ignore the required resistor), the second and third would each be attached to a (different value) resistor and a wire to the LED.
The resistor (on the transmitter) are in place to reduce the current supply to the transmitter and therefore lower the light levels. The lower light levels mean that the resistors (on the receiver) can reduce output from the phototransistor emitter and not trigger the corresponding transmitter.
I realize the drawing is poor and the circuit wouldn't necessary be very useful, but assuming you used the correct values for the component, would this work?
Use of the transmitter:
Transmitter Switch 1 (no resistor) - Buzzer1,Buzzer2 and Buzzer3 beep (because the signal is strong).
Transmitter Switch 2 (R1) - Buzzer1 and Buzzer2 beep, Buzzer 3 does not beep because its resistor filters out the signal.
Transmitter Switch 1 (R2 = 2xR1) - Only Buzzer1 beeps, the signal is too weak to trigger the other transistors.