triac gate trigger
I looked up a datasheet for the T0609M triac. As I interpret what it says, it does not indicate to me any gate voltage limitation, 5-volts or not. It only indicates a threshold voltage of 1.5 volts or 10 ma. to trigger. It indicates an average gate input power of 1-watt with 10-watts as the absolute maximum. and gate current at an absolute maximum of 4-amps in a 20 microsecond trigger pulse. You've got to be driving a really big load to need to hammer the gate that hard.
As I look at your circuit, I can see that the gate is triggered with the 30 volts as you can see. Considering that the gate resistance is probably in the area of 60 ohms or so, that makes the trigger spike current about 500 ma. well under the 4 A maximum.
Is there a problem with the operation of your circuit?