I don't see how missing thermal relief would promote thumbstoning, presuming correct SMD processing. Thermal relief is strongly unwanted for RF circuit, bypass capacitors in digital and fast analog circuits that are planned to be low-inductive, all kinds of power circuits, any via with thermal functionality, dedicated thermal vias as well as regular vias connecting pins of power components to planes.
Thermal reliefs are often required for through-plated component pins to allow correct wave soldering. This can create a conflict of objectives in case of power or ground pins. As a compromise, we e.g. connect only one of multiple ground planes.
I see the rework problem. Rework stations providing preheating of SMD boards are an industry standard however and should be used at least for sensitive boards.
On the other hand, thermal relief might be acceptable for components with moderate ground inductance requirements, e.g. small capacitor values. You can also estimate ground inductance numbers and put them into your design calculation.