Actually, extracting models like that is an area I am presently working on with a high degree of success. You can not model this circuit in SonnetLite, you would exceed the layer limit (three layers required, 1) partial ground, 2) spiral, 3) bridge out).
If you have access to one or the other of higher levels of Sonnet, put your spiral inductor in and do a Pi Net model synthesis (works best for lossless case). You have to use some care there (as described in the documentation) to be sure you have good results, but that should get you your lumped model. If all you need is inductance, Q, and Srf, just get that from the data. In about 10 seconds you can plot inductance and Q and see what you have. Move things around until it works the way you want. Full disclosure: I work for Sonnet. However, if you have easier access to any other planar tool, they should work too. Try to stay away from the volume meshers for this problem, they will take way too much time.
As for my present research, if you send me two port S parameters of a spiral in Touchstone format, I will reply with a model extracted using my latest techniques. Can not discuss what those techniques are just yet.
I think it was good that vfone raised the issue about ground. It is very widely misunderstood, and that causes a lot of grief and missed deadlines. Kind of scary actually. It needs discussion.
Not sure I fully understand Borber's post, but the stray capacitance to the enclosure comment is a clue. That stray capacitance goes to ground. The ground return current flows through that stray capacitance to the ground and back to the source. The ground return path must be complete. Perfectly OK at RF if the complete RF path includes stray capacitance. If you take away that stray capacitance (impossible to do completely) and there is no radiation, the circuit will not work.
Actually, there is a very easy way to almost completely eliminate the ground return current path. Somewhere in your test setup, you have a signal source. Probably has a coax cable coming from it. Take a small knife and completely cut the braid of the coax, leave the center conductor alone. OK, you still have a very small capacitance across the gap in the braid, but I'll bet your circuit quits working!