The highest current relays I have seen are in car products (full to dip headlight circuits) which are rated at 40/50A. In a relay the moving part (armature) carries the circuit current. So for a 250 A relay the armature would have to carry 250, so it would have to be really massive, say 3mm thick X 20mm wide. Then to make it flexible it would have to be 1m long!!!!. So we use flexible tails connecting the relay contacts with the stationary terminals, same problem, except this time its a bit of copper wire that has to be flexible and carry the current, so it would have to be 6mm diameter. Can you see the problem? with a contactor the heavy current is carried by the short armature (moving part) with contacts at each end, which is a lighter, more simple solution.
Frank