I think eetech00 is right. The pulse sent back from the valves that "burns" the receiver is probably back emf from the inductance of the motor or solenoid or whatever it is that actually moves the valves. Here is what that means in simpler terms. When electric current is flowing through a coil (like the coil in a motor or a solenoid), that current has a sort of "inertia". It wants to keep going, and it is hard to stop it suddenly. It is like a heavy object on wheels that once you get it moving it is hard to stop. When you try to stop it, you feel great force from the thing that is moving. So with electrical current, after it gets flowing (when opening the valve), the receiver eventually has to stop the current (after the valve gets fully opened). It does that by interrupting the circuit, giving the current nowhere to go. When that happens, the inertia of that current exerts a "force" (which we call voltage) to try to keep going. This voltage appears across whatever tried to interrupt it. In this case that would be someplace inside the receiver module. We call that voltage "back emf", and it can be thousands of volts - enough to damage, or "burn", the receiver switch.
Even if you add a relay, as you are suggesting, this back emf could still be a problem. It will no longer "burn" the receiver, but it could burn out the contacts in the relay by causing a spark to jump every time the relay is opened. The solution is to use a snubber circuit, or a protection diode, depending on whether the motors are AC or DC. These protection circuits allow the current to gradually come to a stop when the motor is turned off, instead of coming to a stop all of a sudden. This prevents the spark or the high back emf, so no damage is done.