you have been given an impossible task then. to make a continguous diplexer filter with matching at all 3 ports, you need singly terminated prototype filters.
In other words, you need a lowpass that has an admitance at the junction of Y= 1 + jB(f) in the lowpass passband. The highpass has Y=0-jB(f) in its the lowpass passband. and vice versa.
That way the junction admitance is 1 (since the reactive admittance of the HP cancels the reactive admittance of the LP).
There are some papers by Rhodes that are useful to understand the concept.
You might have to jigger the HP and LP cutoff frequencies to get G=.5 real part right at the crossover frequency. at the crossover you want junction admittance = admittance of LP + admittance of HP = 0.5 +Jb' + 0.5 -Jb' = 1, i.e. matched.
Obviously, the lowpass by itself will have very poor performance. It only works when the singly terminated LP end is attached to the singly terminated HP port.