Way back in 1984, the TV transmitters supplied to my organisation was controlled by micro processor based controller. On site some one thought, what would happen if the controller or the comms link went down, so a "pulse control" module was invented, which powered the transmitters, though the software had to be modified to make the "on" and "off" signals square waves. You could perhaps think of using your controller to keep switching the relay on,the default being off.
Frank