Well, there are some ways.
One way is really copy the DDR3 wires from an already working design (for example, a reference board), and fix these wires in your design. It is a lazy and somehow idiot-proof way to proceed, and usually provides good results.
If you are going to really route DDR3 connections from zero, you should use a simulation software for help you (Mentor or something like that). DDR3 circuits are very sensitive and needs lots of knowledge in routing - power planes, wiring impedance, avoid grounding cuts, wiring legth, EMC and more, but you seem to know about these topics. If you don´t simulate your circuit, you may need more PCB design waves. You will need a good scope/pointers (at least 2 GHz bandwidth) and a lot of fine adjusts for DDR3 parameters on your DSP FW.